Tuesday

Mom Passed Last Night


My mother passed away last night surrounded by her children. Below is a poem I've been building in my mind the last few days, out on the snowy trails while I've been running with my dog and wrestling with the reality of my mother leaving this earth:


"My tears falling one by one, so bittersweet, each one filled with exquisite grief...only to sink back into the warm arms of Mother Earth."


Mom fell and broke her hip just over two years ago. My siblings and I have been taking turns caring for her so that she could stay in her little California home. I've flown out to California many times over the last year and each time I brought you along. I gathered some of the blog posts from my "shifts" with mom and have included them here. I am so proud of my family for the way we have surrounded mom with tender, patient, and loving care that allowed her to pass on in the home she bought as a single parent forty years ago!

I'm flying out in the morning to help sisters and brother make arrangements.



Below is mom and all her children, (we lost two of our siblings over the years)
...I'm the one holding the cat, of course! :)



Sisters love, hold, and dance my mom's way to the other side in her last few hours:






Thank you all for keeping me company on this journey.

Blog posts from my time with mom in California:
March 2009
April 2009
April 2009
June 2009
June 2009
Sept 2009
October 2009
November 2009
November 2009


Our Memorial Blog for mom.

42 comments:

Jaz said...

Melody, I've only 'known' you for a very short amount of time (maybe a couple of weeks?) and only online (i'm @artbyjaz on twitter), but I can tell that you're a beautiful person. I think your Mum probably has a lot to do with that. I can't imagine what you're going through right now. From over the other side of the World - my heart goes out to you and your family.
Jaz x

Melody Lea Lamb said...

Thank you very much Jaz.

Karen Forkin said...

Melody,so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today.

Kristin Summerlin said...

How wonderful that you had this time with her and were able to give her the gift of being surrounded by love in a place she loved. My mom died suddenly when I was 19, and I didn't understand then that she would live on ~ through me. Your mom lives on through you, too.

Joanne said...

What a tribute to your mother that she had children who cared for her in such a way as to make her the most comfortable she could be for over 3 years! She has very special children! I am sorry for your loss., and I pray that all will go well as you say your final goodbyes with your siblings. (((hugs)))

Katherine Thomas said...

I think I represent the whole Twitter community when I say I'm so very sorry for your loss... Today's blog post, and your positive presence on Twitter each and every day are beautiful tributes to your mother. We're all sending our sympathy and support your way.

Kerri said...

Sending ((HUGS)) your way my friend! I am so sorry for your loss.

Irene Rencsi said...

Melody, I'm so sorry to hear. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Vic said...

I am so sorry for your loss Melody,my thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Melody Lea Lamb said...

Thank you so much Karen, Kristin, Joanne, Katherine, Kerri, Irene, and Vic for your soothing words of comfort and support. I am empowered by your friendship.

Elizabeth McCrindle said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Mel, my thoughts are with you and your family....hugs Elizabeth x

Barbara A. Freeman said...

Melody,I have only "known" you for a short time, but loved reading about and seeing the beautiful photos of your Mom. Your posts were always so touching. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Mona said...

I'm so sorry Melody. We are never really ready to lose a parent! Beautiful pictures, and I'll keep your family in my prayers this week.

Jean Levert Hood said...

Oh, Melody, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. How wonderful that your mother was surrounded by and cared for in such a loving way. May you all find peace as you go about this difficult week. God's blessings to you all, Jean

PaintDog said...

My heart aches for you and your family Mel. I'm so glad you have each other for precious support. Take care of yourself.

-Ann

Evelyn McCorristin Peters said...

Melody, I pray that you find some peace in the process of saying goodbye to your Mom. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Your support group is here, in return for all the support you have given us.
Evelyn

Miniature Art by Karen Hull said...

Melody - my heart goes out to you and your family and I hope the wonderful memories you have and the support and love of family and friends will be a huge comfort to you in the coming months. xx

Dragonfly Treasure said...

ah Melody, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother. I know how hard it is to say goodbye. You and your family have done such an amazing job the last few years. I know she felt all of your love and appreciated it very much. She is no longer suffering and is up and running and playing with your two siblings.
I'm still not over my Mom's passing, 9 years ago. We just lost Dad a few weeks ago. Just keep all the ahppy memories in your mind and close to your heart.
Know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
*hugs*deb

Maggie Mei Lewis said...

Me and my family's best wishes to you Miss Melody! Your mother sounded like a wonderful inspiring, person!

Melody Lea Lamb said...
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Melody Lea Lamb said...

Thank you Elizabeth, Barbara, Mona, Ann, Jean, Evelyn, Karen, Deb, and Maggie. Your sweet words sooth my heart. :)

"JeanneG" said...

So sorry Melody. I had been wondering if your turn in Bakersfield wasn't about due. Sorry it has to be for the funeral. Hugs.

mousewords said...

What a beautiful tribute, Melody. My heart goes out to you and your family!

Kathleen Coy said...

I'm so sorry, Melody. Sending love to you and your family.
Kathleen

Allison Reece said...

Melody,
What a beautiful memorial to your dear Mother. I will pray God will continue to bless you and your family with comfort, peace, love and support now and in the future.
Sincerely,
Allison Reece
Allison Reece Fine Art Originals

Sarah Davis said...

Melody, I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. What a beautiful poem and tribute you have given her on your blog. She must have been a great woman to earn such love from you. I am thinking of you and your family.

Sarah

Cathy said...

I only found your blog this morning....I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending prayers, love and hugs your way.

Debbie Lamey-MacDonald said...

I am so very sorry for your loss Mel. Your family did such an amazing job caring for your mom. It is obvious that she was a very special person; as she helped nurture such loving and caring individuals. May fond memories and the love of family bring you all comfort during this next little while. Your mom is now a sweet angel smiling down on you all. Much love and warm thoughts to you and your family.
Hugs,
Deb

Linda Shantz said...

So sorry to hear about your mom,Melody. More thoughts and prayers for you and your family!

Rosanne said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time of sorrow and loss. Losing anyoone is hard, but losing a parent is harder.

Mary Sonya Conti said...

Having lost a mother in much the same way you have sit here searching for comforting words that fall on the numbness you have right now. We tell ourselves they are better off now, out of pain and free from the burden of hanging on. I believe they are truly home where time has no pause and merely waiting to see you walk back into their arms down the road. The time between hurts at the loss of the physical touch. But if you still your mind and keep your heart open you will feel their warmth and know the love at the core of your being. My love to you dear heart in this time of sorrow.

Bunnyman said...

Dear Melody,
My sincerest condolences for the loss of your mother. May her memory comfort you, give you strength and touch your life forever.
Steve Guida
"Duncan's Magical Garden"

Melody Lea Lamb said...

Thank you all SO much for your comforting words. I honestly have found such loving strength in my "cyber friendships" and am deeply grateful.
**hugs**
~Mel

Lorena Frith said...

No words could ever come close to describing my condolences on your loss... May you find strength in the love of your family and friends during these difficult times.

Carolynn McDade said...

Hi Melody,

I'm sorry for your loss... my mother died almost 9 years ago, and it seems like yesterday. My thoughts are with you, that's for sure.

Keep up the beautiful work. I have been admiring your art for quite sometime now (just found your blog).

With deepest sympathy, carolynn

Rulan said...

Melody, I'm so sorry to hear that your mom died. I have only been coming to your blog for a month or two, but from what I've seen, your mom would have been proud of the person you are.

http://Ariaa.com/ said...

Melody You are no longer following me so I could not DM you but I am sending beams of love and I know the Comforter is already with you all. Your mother looks like a good woman and the pictures are beautiful and I know will bring you comfort. I lost my mom when she was only 38 and I 17 and we only had one picture of her. I am 53 and that pic brings much comfort to this day. My heart goes out to all of you. All my love and prayers, Ariaa Jaeger

your art is absolutely beautiful hon:)

Gail H. Ragsdale said...

I've been off line for awhile and have just now read of your Mother passing. I am so sorry, my words seem so hollow. Losing a parent is one of those life altering experiences.

In love and light~

ellie said...

Hi Melody:

What a wonderful tribute to your mother. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Melody Lea Lamb said...

As we approach the official memorial for mom this weekend, it's been so soothing to come back to this post and read all the kind remarks. I am honored and blessed to have such fine friends here in the cyber-sphere! Thank you ALL again.

Rev LIzz said...

Melody, I've just read this for the first time. My condolences. What wonderful children you are to help your Mom like that. It will be 20 yrs I lost my Mon on May 11th. I can't believe she is gone this long. I have outlived her age. She was 52 when she passed. I am now 54. I still miss her but the deep pain is gone. She was in a lot of pain and suffering and we too let her be home, not in a hospital room. She was with us when she passed. Thank you for sharing such a trying and emotional time. It helps other during their times too. Your Mom was proud of you I'm sure and I bet your family is too. God Bless ~<~@

Melody Lea Lamb said...

Thank you, Rev. Liz. Warmest hugs to you. ((Hugs))

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